Reflection Letters


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Provocation of the month:

"We should not classify each other!"


How will we relate to ourselves and others?
Each one of us has the right to release our potential with enthusiastic support from those around us, as long as our intention is not to harm others. This means that we should look for the qualities and potential in ourselves and in others.


    John is caring and consistent.

    Mary has great vision.

    Mohammed has such a deep knowledge of mathematics.

    Indira is really good as a program leader on TV.

    Yoshi performs state of the art surgery.

    Linda always invites us to warm meetings where we all inspire ourselves.

    Anders is a great leader who wants to develop his team, his organization and himself.

This view of ourselves and others ought to be natural, constructive and positive. Why do we often focus on the weaknesses (as we perceive it) of other people and even classify them as the weakness?


    He’s always late.

    She never puts her mobile phone down, even at meetings.

    He has to be right - always.

    She can never take a stand for anything.

    He is a lone wolf.

    She never listens.

    He talks all the time.

    She is dishonest.

What makes it so difficult to spontaneously see the qualities and potential in ourselves and in all people? If we can’t see them immediately we should at least see them over time.

This is true from young age. Children do not always treat each other well. This attitude dominates many relationships when we grow up. That goes for colleagues, neighbors, even family members, people with different ethnic backgrounds, and people with different social backgrounds in our society and in many other relationships.

Why does this view of ourselves and our fellow human beings occur in so many relationships? We can just watch the news today and see proof of this. It is important for us to know why we act this way in order for us to make a conscious decision to change focus to always see the qualities and potential in our fellow human beings.

This reflection letter will not give the answer to that question. At the same time I hope it will contribute to constructive reflections and hopefully dialogues between some or all of us.

I am convinced though that we see the qualities and potential in ourselves and others when we are in a loveful mood. When we are in our fears and ego-trap we see the negatives in ourselves and other people. When and Why do we then end up in our loveful or fearful/ego mood?

We have a special responsibility as leaders
As leaders we are expected to create the conditions for all of us to release our potential, for everyone, not only for our favorite group in our society.

Let’s see how relevant this reflection is by staying alert to our reactions when we think of or meet with other people during the coming days. What solidified thinking and emotional patterns pop up within us? To what extent do I focus on the qualities and potential of the other person and to what extent do I focus on classifying the other person according to how I perceive his or her weaknesses?

Recommendations of the month:
“As it is in Heaven” by Kay Pollak. A great movie where people constantly balance between Love and Fear. It was nominated for an Academy Award as the best foreign movie.