Provocation of the month:
"If we take initiatives aimed at reducing our fears, privately or in our organizations, we will automatically open up opportunities for increased well-being and improved results."
Learning to deal with adversity in a life promoting way
Life doesn’t always turn out the way we expect. It may be large events or small events in our daily life that affect our balance in some way. If we look at 9/11 or the murder of the Swedish Foreign Minister Anna Lindh we see that these events give rise to many different feelings. Fears for the future or sorrow for what has been lost. Unexpected events involve change for us as individuals or for society as a whole. These events are now a part of our history and will affect development in society - a new synthesis is taking form. The same applies to smaller events on a personal level - I didn’t get the job, I missed the train this morning, or my financial situation is worse than what I had hoped for.
When the unexpected happens we are often forced to stop in our tracks and hopefully we use the opportunity to reflect and maybe we dialogue with others about what has happened. Can we stop and pay attention to our feelings? Can we accept and work through what we are feeling? Life consists for all of us of both joy and sorrow and it is important that we allow ourselves to feel both joy and sorrow, i.e. to feel, to stay with our feelings and to even express our feelings.
The only thing that we can be sure of in life is change. However much we try we cannot avoid change. If we can’t accept this basic fact of life we may find the changes that do occur to be traumatic.
Respect for money
The Swedish people have decided to keep the Swedish Crown, but regardless of what currency we have we must respect money. We should respect the financial aspects of what we are doing, and we should treat others’ money as if it were our own. Respecting money does not mean, though, that money should be the purpose of what we are doing. Our private and professional financial situation has to be taken seriously. We all need a high degree of financial awareness. This may sound trivial, and yet we have seen too many people suffering as a result of having neglected their long and short term financial situation.
We need to spend time on planning and monitoring the financial aspects of life and work whether we like it or not. Money can facilitate our development and be a means to experience joy and pleasure. When we lack a conscious and healthy relationship to the financial consequences of what we do we may be kidnapped by money issues. We either lack money or funding, or we have so much money that we overspend. We may be in a situation where we are always concerned about how to manage our private or professional funds without really enjoying them. Fighting over money has ruined many marriages. Over or under spending has put many organizations and their people into severe difficulties. We should try to prevent this as much as we can by reflecting carefully on the financial consequences of our decisions.
We have to take responsibility for our own money. We have a similar responsibility for the money that is provided to us with a specific purpose in mind. Other people that provide us with funding expect that we pay them back with products, services, interest payments, amortization, dividends or increased shareholder value. We should treat others’ money with respect. This is our reality regardless of whether we are reflecting on our private or our professional life.